Recently, a colleague from a former job was buried, and one employee came in position to the ceremony, and then to the wake. Older women from the team explained to her that it is undesirable for a pregnant woman to come to the funeral. As a result, the expectant mother felt ill and was taken home. Fortunately, everything ended well for her, and in this article we will find out the reasons why pregnant women should not come to funerals and be in the cemetery.
Even in ancient times, our ancestors listened to wise people and tried to prevent the presence of a pregnant woman in the burial places and even at the wake. The answer to the question lies on the surface: there is an energy of death, grief, grief and mourning in the cemetery.
Mourning woman on funeral with red rose standing at casket or coffin
Many superstitions are also associated with paganism or oriental knowledge, which have nothing to do with Christianity. But still, there is some truth. If only because any funeral is a huge stress that can even cause premature birth and complications in a pregnant woman.
They have different arguments. It is believed that there is nothing wrong with going to a funeral ceremony. In the Christian faith, it is customary to honor the ancestors and dead people and see them off on their last journey.
Situations in our time are different. Therefore, the need to say goodbye to a dear person is fully justified. It is only important to follow certain rules when visiting the cemetery.
It is not recommended to go to the cemetery on Easter or on memorial days, when there are a lot of people. A pregnant woman can be accidentally pushed, especially since there are a lot of drunk people. She can also be intimidated. It is better to visit the grave of a loved one on a weekday, lay flowers, then put a candle in the temple and pray for the soul.
On major church holidays, it is also not advised to go to the churchyard. Light energy will not save you from negativity. On the contrary, on such days, witches and sorcerers wait and look out for a victim. It may well be her future mother. The negative can also wait behind the fence of the cemetery if it is damaged.
It is strictly forbidden for a woman in a position to eat or drink anything in the cemetery. This is unhygienic and, again, the energy of food is mixed with the energy of the dead, then enters the body.
Previously, a woman in a position must decide for herself whether she should go or not. And also talk to a doctor or psychologist if a loved one has died. Particularly sensitive and women with an unstable emotional state categorically cannot go to such events.
One of the popular signs says that a pregnant woman should not go to the cemetery and attend funerals. However, there are different situations in life, and many women do not know how to do the right thing - go to a funeral or still refrain? In the article, we will find out where such a belief came from, and we will figure out how to behave if fate has presented a difficult choice.
It is difficult to imagine the life of a Russian person without folk signs and beliefs, even the most modern girls furtively bypass a black cat and worry about spilled salt. In our head, two higher educations, faith in God and grandmother's signs coexist calmly. And when it comes to pregnancy, then there is no longer a step to take a step, so as not to hear what you can do and what not. People around you constantly explain how to behave during pregnancy, and your head starts to spin - you understand with your mind that these are all prejudices, but the fear of harming the baby makes you listen to grandmother's advice.
In the human mind, pregnancy is associated with the beginning of a new life, and the cemetery - with the end. These are two mutually exclusive concepts that should not collide in real life. The life cycle alternates between birth and death, every minute in the world someone dies and is born at the same time, but these events usually do not intersect, hence the belief that a pregnant woman should not visit the abode of death. This is especially true for funerals, because it is difficult for any person to face death, and a pregnant woman does not need negative emotions and stress at all and can even be dangerous. From time immemorial, it was believed that it was dangerous for a pregnant woman to see a dead woman - this is a bad omen that marks the coming of death.
All people are different, and they perceive the funeral in their own way: someone treats death philosophically, someone, on the contrary, can hardly endure the presence of the deceased, so you need to look at the situation, it all depends on the temperament and emotionality of the woman. Listen to your inner voice, not a sense of duty. The heavy atmosphere of the funeral is depressing, so it is better for pregnant women to avoid the mourning ceremony, do not pay attention to gossip and gossip, do as you think is right. On the other hand, if a person important to you has died, and you understand that you will regret if you don’t see him on his last journey, then it’s better to go to the funeral. At the same time, you must understand that the cemetery is not the best place for a pregnant woman, so first of all think about your child.
Even priests believe that these are ancient superstitions and that pregnant women, if necessary, can be present at the funeral. There is no “bad energy” there, the main thing is the emotional mood of the pregnant woman. Grandmothers say that the soul of the deceased can “cling” to a child at a funeral, but in the church such signs are called heresy. If you don't want to go to the cemetery, then don't. Throw away the feeling of guilt - you can say goodbye to your loved ones not only at a funeral, go to a wake, put a candle in the church, order a magpie, pray for the deceased.
It is important and useful for a future mother to attend church and pray, because she prays with her unborn child, gives him positive energy and God's Grace - the main thing is when a prayer is read with faith. The church atmosphere gives peace, confidence in the future and tranquility, so the clergy urge women to visit the temple more often and pray (this can be done not only in church, but also at home). Thus, you will protect not only yourself, but also the child.
Funerals are usually stressful - this is the main reason why a pregnant woman should not be present at the funeral. Negative feelings and thoughts are transmitted from mother to child in the same way as positive ones, so during pregnancy it is very important to get more positive emotions and enjoy life, while it is desirable to protect yourself from stress and negativity as much as possible. Try to avoid mourning events and places where negative energy gathers.
All-knowing grandmothers scare pregnant women and forbid them to go to the cemetery. Yes, the cemetery is the kingdom of the dead, it is believed that a lot of bad energy, grief and suffering have been accumulated there. Priests say that these are echoes of paganism, relics of the past, which should not be paid attention to. In fact, if the soul asks to visit the grave of a loved one during the commemoration, then it is quite possible to go and commemorate loved ones.
Whether or not to go to the cemetery during pregnancy is a personal matter for every woman. The main thing is how you feel at the same time, and what emotions you experience. If a woman is going to the cemetery with anxiety, fear and anxiety, then it is better to stay at home or go to church instead of the cemetery. When a woman wants to visit the dead, and is sure that nothing in the cemetery will disturb her inner peace, then you can safely go. Many girls write on forums that they feel inner peace and tranquility at the cemetery.
Priests believe that God's Grace and blessing descends on people who do not forget their ancestors and remember their deceased relatives, so the remembrance of the deceased is our duty during life. It is necessary to take care of the graves at any time, even during pregnancy, but do it from a pure heart, and not under duress. If you feel unwell or do not want to go to the cemetery today, then reschedule the trip to another day. Even better, during pregnancy, transfer your duties of caring for the graves to other relatives.
In women during pregnancy, blood pressure often rises, insomnia and high fatigue worries, and emotional lability affects mood changes. Strong negative emotions can provoke a deterioration in the physical condition of the expectant mother, cause stress and melancholy, so it is undesirable for emotional and suspicious girls to go to the cemetery.
From the point of view of esotericists, a pregnant woman has a unique energy that spreads harmony and peace not only to the expectant mother and baby, but also to those around her. However, the energy field of a woman is very vulnerable, it actively attracts otherworldly entities that draw out vital energy. And in the places associated with death, there is a lot of negative energy and entities that are ready to "sit down" in someone else's biofield. This point of view is similar to folk superstitions, which also warn of "settlement" and harm to other people's energy, so esotericists are categorically against any visits to a cemetery by pregnant women, and even more so a funeral.
But even pregnant women can go to the wake. If a woman wishes to express condolences to the relatives and friends of the deceased, then you can attend the commemoration. The main thing is your inner attitude and self-awareness, if there is even the slightest doubt, then refuse the event. If you do not want to go, then others should be sympathetic to your desires and feelings.
A woman should make a decision on her own in such a situation, no one can advise you on how to do it right. If you feel confident in your abilities and have a stable mentality, then you can safely attend the funeral and go to the cemetery. If you understand that the person is dear to you and you can’t miss the funeral because you will regret it, go. However, if there is even the slightest doubt, then it is better to stay at home or go to church and light a candle for the repose.
The same can be said about the physical condition of a pregnant woman - if you often feel unwell, get tired and suffer from mood swings, then you should not tempt fate, stay at home and have a good rest. Doctors remind that strong negative emotions, worries and tears have a bad effect on the well-being of mother and baby. It is especially necessary to save your nerves in the early stages of pregnancy, so if you need to go to the cemetery, then communicate less with the mourners and try not to be nervous.
It is believed that a guardian angel is given to each person at baptism, and while the baby is in the womb, her angel protects him. However, there is an opinion that unborn children are very vulnerable and subject to the influence of dark forces, therefore, according to popular signs, pregnant women should not go to the cemetery, and even more so to attend the funeral. If there is an opportunity to avoid a funeral, then use it. Grandmothers say that the deceased and unborn children are in the same dimension, so the deceased can "take away" the child with him. When just an acquaintance has died, then stay at home with a clear conscience - pregnancy is a good reason to avoid a funeral, so no one will judge you.
Signs do not prohibit pregnant women from attending the wake. There you can support the family of the deceased and express condolences. However, try to limit your contact with relatives who are grieving, because you need to avoid stress and negative emotions. Set yourself up to the fact that there is nothing terrible in death - it is a natural and inevitable process. Strong emotions can lead to the loss of a child, so if you are overreacting to the death of a loved one, stay at home.
Our ancestors were sure that the unborn child feels the whole sad situation at the funeral and hears the cry of people, feeling their grief. In ancient times, it was believed that if the expectant mother looked at the deceased, then the child could be born dead. In the modern world, there is no such categorical attitude towards visiting cemeteries and funerals by pregnant women, but it is better to avoid this unless absolutely necessary.
Forums are full of discussions of the question of whether it is possible for a pregnant woman to go to the cemetery and to the funeral. Opinions differ greatly and depend mainly on the nature of the woman. Some do not think about this issue at all and do not change their lifestyle at all during pregnancy. If you need to visit a cemetery or go to a funeral, then they calmly perform their duties, not thinking about mysticism and signs. More suspicious girls carefully study the forums and participate in discussions before making a decision and coming to their own conclusions. Some future mothers unequivocally listen to the opinion of older relatives and believe that it is better to play it safe and not put the baby at risk.
There are no clear contraindications for pregnant women to visit the cemetery, so you yourself must decide what is more important for you and how to behave in this situation. Visiting the grave of a beloved relative, some experience peace and inner peace, others are nervous and stressed, which can harm the child. Listen to your inner voice, and if he says that you should not go to the funeral, then go to church and order a funeral service.
If a loved one has died and you feel like you have to go to the funeral and say goodbye, then follow some rules. Choose the right time when the deceased has not yet been taken out of the house or the coffin has already been buried. At this time, the emotions of the people around are a little calmer, and the mood is more stable. It is still advisable to avoid a trip to the cemetery, it is enough to come to the wake and express condolences to the relatives of the deceased.
Pregnancy has always been a mystery, it was shrouded in superstitions, beliefs and prejudices that appeared many centuries ago and were passed down from generation to generation. One thing is for sure, funerals cause strong emotions, worries and stress, so an impressionable and emotional pregnant woman should not expose her psyche to such strong tests. In addition, a lot of grief and tears are concentrated in the cemetery, which can also affect the energy of the expectant mother, so try to keep trips to the cemetery to a minimum.
If the situation is such that you cannot miss the funeral or you yourself want to say goodbye to the deceased, then go only if you are sure that you can behave calmly and not harm the baby with tears and emotional behavior. Otherwise, refrain from going to the cemetery, it is better to go to church and pray. Only you can decide how to do the right thing in this situation and whether it is worth going to a funeral in your position. If you know that you are too emotional and suspicious, do not risk the well-being of your own child.
Pregnancy is one of the most important events for every woman. Inside it, life was born and develops. This is the continuation of the human race. And a mother who is carrying a fetus needs to be extremely careful and attentive to everything. She needs to monitor her diet, health, emotions and experiences. Pregnant women believe in signs and try to clearly follow everything that folk wisdom advises. They do not cut their hair, fearing that this will somehow affect the unborn baby. They try to stay away from unpleasant people so that they do not jinx it. But what about visiting a pregnant cemetery, funerals and commemorations? We will understand and analyze.
Superstitions and prohibitions
The fact that a pregnant woman is forbidden to go to a cemetery and attend a funeral is considered by some to be a simple superstition and does not betray any significance to this. Others believe that there is no place among the dead. There are also people who argue that everything is possible during pregnancy, as long as the psyche allows. After all, everything connected with death is very hard to endure and causes experiences that are contraindicated for a woman in position. So why shouldn't pregnant women go to the cemetery?
There are many opinions, but not everyone knows the correct answer to this question. Clergymen, healers and specialists involved in magic answer this question in the same way. A pregnant woman has no place in a cemetery and funerals.
Opinions and arguments
To answer the question of why pregnant women should not go to the cemetery, let's reason. To begin with, we propose to discuss how ministers of the Church and traditional healers, magicians and wizards explain such a ban.
People say that he does not immediately leave his earthly body and place of residence. She has been with relatives for some time and, roughly speaking, is looking for a way to stay. Those who are fond of magic are sure that a soul that has flown out after death can move into a new body and continue its stay in the world of the living. She cannot complete her migration into a born person. But the developing life in the womb is what suits her. Thus, it can be assumed why pregnant women should not go to the cemetery. Another (not his) soul can fly into the body of an unborn child.
As for visiting the cemetery, magicians also do not advise pregnant women to go there. The souls of the dead are buried there. So, again, some of them will want to move. The second reason is also related to witchcraft and answers the question of why pregnant women should not go to the cemetery. A woman in a position is very sensitive to the evil eye, it is easy for her. The cemetery at all times was considered the most powerful place for magical rituals. This is where all the negativity comes in. And if each person is protected by a guardian angel, then the baby in the womb still has no protection from human malice.
Churchmen also respond negatively to the question of whether pregnant women can enter the cemetery. Their arguments are more plausible and understandable. The cemetery has a special atmosphere. Tears are shed here, people mourn for their departed loved ones. And extra negative emotions and experiences can have a bad effect on you.
Pregnancy and wake
It is better not to visit the cemetery of a pregnant woman. But to commemorate the deceased is a righteous deed. You should not even think about whether it is possible for pregnant women to go to a wake. It all depends on the woman herself, who carries a baby under her heart. If she can endure this atmosphere, then it is necessary. Of course, without drinking alcohol.
Short conclusions
From all that has been said, each person will draw his own conclusions. To believe or not in the signs associated with a funeral and a visit to a pregnant cemetery is a purely individual decision. One thing is clear: life and death have their own territory. Where the dead rest is no place for the living and the unborn. Even without believing in magic and sorcery, maybe it's not worth the risk? All of a sudden folk beliefs are the only true ones? Is it possible to expose your baby to danger even before birth?
There is an opinion that pregnant women should not go to the cemetery. This belief is passed down from generation to generation, while the explanation why the future mother should not do this has been lost for centuries.
Today we will try to figure out whether a pregnant woman should go to the graves of her loved ones and what various experts say about this - from psychologists to priests.
We list the main arguments that explain the ban:
If you believe all these statements, then sending during pregnancy to a funeral or a cemetery is really not worth it. Expectant mothers often lose consciousness even without the tragic situation of the cemetery, especially in the early stages of bearing a baby.
Psychologists do not give a definite answer whether a pregnant woman should be present at the cemetery or not. As for the signs and superstitions described above, psychological science gives them a completely logical explanation: with the help of such irrational beliefs, our ancestors tried to protect pregnant women from the effects of negative emotions and experiences.
If you understand that you will cry and worry a lot in the cemetery, then you really should not go there. Instead of visiting the grave of the deceased, you can pray for him at home or in church.
In addition, a cemetery and a funeral are a place of concentration of a large number of people from whom a young woman in position can become infected with a viral or bacterial disease. Based on this, pregnant women are not allowed in the cemetery, even if they have their own desire.
Orthodox priests not only allow pregnant women to visit the cemetery on the memorial (parental) day, but even recommend doing so. This position is dictated by the fact that each of us has obligations to the deceased relatives and friends, and therefore must regularly visit them at the burial site and take care of the grave.
Faith in God should help a woman cope with prejudice, and sincere prayer and the opportunity to symbolically talk with loved ones contribute to inner purification and peace.
But if graves, crosses and thoughts about the afterlife scare you even at home, then in this case the priests recommend staying at home or praying in church.
When loved ones die, all the living consider it their duty to honor the deceased at least with their presence at his departure on his last journey. But it is undesirable for a pregnant woman to attend a funeral, and on this issue the opinions of both priests and psychologists, and old beliefs, converge.
Do not be afraid that someone will judge you if you do not come to the funeral of a very close or even dear person. Pregnancy is a natural and medically justified reason not to be present at the performance of such a ritual.
If you yourself feel the need to personally say goodbye to the dead, then try at least not to be present at the funeral service and burial in the cemetery.
Visit the deceased before the coffin is taken out of the house, and then return only for the wake, where you can share the grief with other people. During the funeral, think more about the child and his well-being.
If the cemetery and thoughts of death cause you negative emotions, it may be really better for you to refrain from visiting the graves of loved ones (as well as their funerals).
If you understand that only a visit to the cemetery will bring you relief, where you can talk with the mourners, then follow your desire.
To protect yourself and your baby, follow these tips:
Often, all superstitions are based on irrational beliefs that people hold only because of internal fear (or that arise to explain fear). Therefore, when thinking about going to a cemetery, first of all try to listen to your inner voice and intuition.
If you are afraid - better stay at home, if you still want to visit one of your loved ones at his grave - leave all superstitions at home and allow yourself to do this.
“What about suggestions and dreams? Should I follow them? - Goethe asked through the mouth of Faust three centuries ago. The topic remains relevant to this day, although belief in omens is considered something of a kind of fun for adults, and the official Church stigmatizes superstition. And around the question: "?" - The controversy never dies down.
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Why are these superstitions so tenacious in the era of Orthodoxy and total literacy of the population? It's not about signs, but about people who retain the experience of their ancestors accumulated even before the Baptism of Rus', who have signs were the basis of communication with almost all natural manifestations and even a means to unravel the signals of the subtle worlds. “Each event is preceded by a special sign!” - our ancestors were sure, - "You just need to be able to see this sign and interpret it correctly!".
Important! Such a significant event as the emergence of a new life, of course, could not remain without many signs and instructions on how to behave for a woman for almost a whole year.
The Slavs believed that we live in the middle of 3 worlds:
Question: "(graveyard)?" – was carefully considered. The fact that this is extremely undesirable is understandable - the cemetery is an accumulation of "bad" energy, the last threshold between the world of the living and the dead. It is not good for a woman who carries within herself a young sprout of life to attract the attention of the spirits of death and black angels.
Ancient customs forbid pregnant women to go to the cemetery
For the same reason, they tried to protect the pregnant woman from all the worries associated with funerals and burial:
The removal of the body was carried out through the window, often it was even cut through just for this. It was believed that the soul of a dead man could cling to the soul of a baby and harm him.
The pregnant woman could not even look out the window while the dead man was being carried out
the deceased approaching and kissing a loved one? - This is not forbidden!
The parting included an important ritual - a request to the deceased to forgive the offenses inflicted on him during his lifetime and to forgive him. WITH dead man they spoke in a low voice, bending low to his face, asked for forgiveness, forgave, asked to convey greetings to those who were already in the realm of Navi or to fulfill someone's very important request.
Important! Performing the rite of farewell (farewell) was considered mandatory!
It was not customary to shed bitter tears, but it was considered indecent to rejoice noisily that another of your loved ones became closer to the Father of the Family.
It was not forbidden to say goodbye to the dead and commemorate him pregnant
commemorate the dead the whole family gathered, there was a place at the table and the expectant mother. No one was invited to the funeral feast (the final action in the funeral rite), but no one was driven out either: “To anger the dead is to lose happiness in the family!”
Sometimes a large number of people gathered at the memorial meadow, among them there could be those who wished to do an unkind deed. A woman "in gravity" could become an easy prey for an evil person, since it was believed that she "stands on the threshold of two Worlds" - Reveal and Navi.
According to the idea of our ancestors, all children and their souls came to the Middle World from the Reverse World, having received the blessing of the werewolf god Veles, “the shepherd of the souls of Iriy”, a powerful dark patron of various arts, including witchcraft.
So that “bad things” do not happen to a woman and a baby, among Slavic amulets“nauzas” woven from a thick red thread were very common, which the expectant mother wore on her hands and in her hair, taking them off only:
Red thread Mokosh on the wrist
The woman was forbidden even look at the dead in this case! It was said that the dead man could "pull" with his dead look and take the future life with him. And most often such a deceased was considered a sorcerer. Otherwise, there were no obstacles in saying goodbye to a loved one or remembering him for a pregnant woman in Old Slavonic customs. Subject to certain rules, of course!
Important! Perhaps the only immutable prohibition in direct contact with the deceased concerned pregnant women, if the dead had not completely closed their eyelids (it happens).
And what about the official Christian Church? How does she answer the question: Can or not pregnant walk-visit cemetery? Are there any signs or restrictions?
The position of Christian priests differs little from Old Slavonic beliefs. In any case, to the question: Should a pregnant woman go to a cemetery and is it possible for pregnant women together with everyone commemorate the dead? The church answers: “Yes! Not only possible, but even necessary!
Orthodoxy does not welcome such a custom at all, and popular rumor suggests: "The child will be a drunkard!" But the sign that meeting a funeral procession is good luck, especially for a pregnant woman, came to us after Epiphany.
The church allowed to atone for the sins of the deceased through the distribution of money or utensils. A woman who met in a “difficult” situation was doubly paid off - once. Secondly, her child also received a guardian-patron - a ransoming soul (a ransoming uncle or aunt), who "nurtured" the baby from Heaven and could "put in a good word" for him before the Lord.
Is it possible for pregnant women to say goodbye to relatives, without visiting the cemetery, if on the day of the funeral she does not feel well or her “soul does not lie”?
The official Church does not consider such behavior a sin. It will be enough to order a memorial service and a funeral service in memory of the deceased in the Temple, and light a church candle at home and read the appropriate prayers.
When bright words of prayers are raised, it is believed that the souls of the dead receive relief from grief. Separated from the body, the soul "toils". Prayer of a woman carrying new life especially pleasing to the angels and the Lord himself, and the toiling soul has a Good Hope for a speedy decision of its fate.
You can often hear from old people that pregnant women and children have nothing to do in cemeteries and Pregnant women should not look at the dead! Why?
Important! Compliance with all the rules adopted when visiting the cemetery is strictly required!
Esotericists explain, why pregnant women shouldn't visit funerals and cemeteries- it's just unnatural, because the concepts of a churchyard and the beginning of a new life are opposite. Death is the logical end of earthly existence. - the logical beginning of a new path. Between these concepts - the eternal struggle. You should not “lead into temptation” the subtle worlds and make yourself or your baby an apple of discord between the worlds - this is a dangerous business!
At the cemetery, mommy, willy-nilly, is fueled by negative energy, which is carried by tears and grief for the deceased.
At the cemetery, a pregnant woman is fueled by bad energy
Has an explanation why it is impossible to look at the deceased and psychologists:
What to do, if pregnant just wants to wander around cemetery tracks? This happens when the female soul asks for rest from the hustle and bustle and asks to get rid of the psychological burden. Is it possible?
Important! If recently someone close to you died, or a woman feels an irresistible desire to remain in dreary loneliness (this happens during pregnancy), you should not interfere with her.
